I have long been annoyed by the general concept of “self defense”. Not because I dislike the idea, but because I think it confuses some people. Many folks are like a basketball team that runs back to their end of the court after a monster dunk. They are hyped, they are riding the momentum…and they are conceding 2/3 of the court to the other team to take at will.
People go and buy a great concealed carry weapon. They even go to the range to make sure they are proficient. Their confidence is high – it’s a slam dunk! Then they sit back and let would-be criminals dictate 2/3 of a confrontation.
It is much better to encourage law abiding citizens to practice self protection rather than self defense. A defensive mindset is like guarding the lane on my end of the basketball court. A protective mindset is defending all 94 feet. When it comes to personal protection, I am going to full court press – every time.
So, in what ways can self defense and self protection differ? Are we splitting hairs or having a debate over jargon? No. In the next few articles we will discuss 3 primary differences between SD and SP. This post discusses the first.
Let’s say there is a shadowy figure walking toward you. You are alone and your gut tells you he is up to no good. You are halfway between the store and the car, but the angle this guy is coming at you has you wondering if you could make it back to either. As things progress, seconds feel like minutes as you become keenly aware that you are going to have to fight or run, comply or resist, or possibly deploy your weapon. Not a fun thought.
Now, let’s say that you have two small children with you – ages 3 & 5. You know they cannot outrun this individual, and that he will hurt them – possibly kidnap and abuse, or worse – and you know that you are the only thing standing between them and this scum that wants to prey on the weak and innocent.
Did you feel how your mind and emotions switched? How instead of dread you felt indignation? How dare this creep come after my children! Did you notice how clear things became? Rather than the anxiety of having to be in the situation, you were grateful to have a weapon and you knew exactly what you would do with it! That is decisive action! Nobody – and I mean nobody – is going to mess with your babies without killing you first.
Self Protection is taking the mindset that we employ to the protection of our children, grandchildren, nieces, and nephews and applying it to our own lives. Rather than feeling bad (yes, some people do) for your attacker, or fearing the legal repercussions, protect yourself with the same mindset and aggression that you would protect your little people. Protect yourself – your family will be glad you did!
In the next article we will discuss violence. Your SD or SP mindset will determine how it is used, and it may determine whether you are the one who walks away from a confrontation.